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January 14, 2015

Comment received at Facebook:

The Aware Baby has changed my life as a parent. As social worker and teacher, I so appreciate all I have been trying to learn and instill in my 11-month-old daughter because of your brilliant work.

February 20, 2015

Comment received by email:

We have a two-year-old son, and we have really enjoyed your books. They have been a great guide to us during these first two years.

February 24, 2015

Comment received by email:

I am a huge fan of this parenting style and feel that it is a very holistic way to parent.

March 8, 2015

Comment received by email:

I recently read a few of your books, and I absolutely loved them.  I am a parent of two young children, but I am also a teacher.  I found that the information in your books spoke to me about my parenting and my children, but also about my students and myself as a teacher.

March 17, 2015

Comment received by email:

I have read The Aware Baby, and it's the first book that has made any kind of sense to me with regard to my son and his sleep issues.

A mother in the UK

March 21, 2015

Comment received by email:

Your books come highly recommended but I'm not sure which is the best book to start with. Baby is eight weeks old and cries a lot.  She is held at these times.

Reply from Aletha Solter:

Thank you for your message and interest in Aware Parenting. The best book to start with is The Aware Baby, which covers the age range from conception to two-and-a-half years. This book explains the entire Aware Parenting approach, including all the information about crying.

April 2, 2015

Comment received by email:

We loved your book, The Aware Baby. Total mind and heart shift for us.

Parents in New Zealand

April 27, 2015

Comment received by email:

I would like to thank you with all my heart, because your books were a great help for me. Your help has been immense, both for practical and for psychological things. My older child (age 11) is beginning to show all the symptoms of early adolescence. I would like to know if you have written a book about adolescence.

Thanks for everything, I believe that you are a heroine of our time.

with affection, 

Reply from Aletha Solter:

Thank you for your message and interest in Aware Parenting. My book, Raising Drug-Free Kids, covers the age range from conception to age 25. It is the only book in which I wrote about the adolescent years. Also, my book, Attachment Play, covers the age range from birth to age 12. These two books have not yet been translated into Italian.

May 8, 2015

Comment received by email:

Hello, please could you advise me on what the differences or similarities are between Aware Parenting and Hand in Hand Parenting? Many thanks.

Reply from Aletha Solter:

Thanks for your interest in Aware Parenting. There are many similarities between Aware Parenting and some other parenting programs, for example, Hand in Hand Parenting. I am familiar with Hand in Hand parenting, and it is compatible with Aware Parenting. However, I am not an expert on the details. I would suggest that you become fully informed about each approach and make your own comparison. For an overview of Aware Parenting, please see our FAQ page, which compares Aware Parenting to more traditional attachment parenting approaches. See also a summary of the philosophy of Aware Parenting.

October 5, 2015

Comment received at Facebook:

Mrs Aletha Solter, you're one of my most beloved authors in the world. You deserve a Nobel Prize for your work and attitude. Making parents aware of the positive approach on how to raise kids, the importance of crying and holding, while banning punishments and rewards. It has changed my way of seeing things. Thank you!

November 8, 2015

Comment received by email:

Dear Aletha, I just want to say a huge thank you. I am reading your book (The Aware Baby) and it is so amazing. I am so thankful for it and thankful that my friend gave it to me. I have little princess, Sarah, born in June. She is an absolutely amazing child, but since I am reading your book, she is even more amazing! Mostly I was worried about her sleeping. I started to let her cry (in my arms). Today was the fifth day, and it is working well for us. After her bath, I lie down with her in our bed and she falls asleep so nicely. I don‘t have to walk around the room with her. She cries for twenty minutes a day. Actually, today it was only about 13 minutes. Thank you so much once again. This book should be given to every mother in the hospital after giving birth. Or even before that, when they know they are pregnant.

Wishing you all the best from Slovakia,
Barbora and family

November 20, 2015

Comment received by email:

Reading the The Aware Baby changed my life. Thank you. I found you on the internet because I was looking for a way to wean my son (age two), as he was waking up ten times a night to nurse, and he was pretty obsessed with the boob in the day time, asking for it all the time, and sometimes just sucking for a few seconds. A total addiction! After reading your advice one night, and after preparing him for some time, I didnīt let him feed, but we stayed with him and held him while he cried. After some hours he fell asleep and didnīt wake up until morning.The next night he slept for ten hours solid. I also noticed a huge change in his personality. He was much happier and less whiny!... We now regularly accompany him crying, and it has changed so much in him. He is much happier, and he cries a lot less in the long run, as he gets it all out in one go. I feel so sad that we stopped him from releasing his tensions for the last two years.

One of the biggest changes is in me. I donīt feel like I am doing something wrong, and I donīt get angry when he cries, thinking he is manipulative etc.  I can listen to him crying without feeling bad, because I know heīs letting off steam. I am also learning to identify situations that make him feel stressed. Today he fell over, but someone else picked him up who he didnīt know very well. His mood changed after that, and he was fussy and upset. So when we got home, I sat him on my knee and acknowledged to him that it must have been an unpleasant experience. He cried a lot and was much happier afterwards. So maybe I can allow him to cry more frequently without letting it build up. I have also noticed that in the beginning he didnīt want to be held when he cried, but now he will cry while sitting on my knee, like he knows that this is the time to let it all out and that I am there for him. I am spreading the word about your work as much as I can.

from the UK, living in Ecuador

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