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Press Release: Helping Young Children Flourish


Helping Young Children Flourish

Title: Helping Young Children Flourish
Author: Aletha Solter, Ph.D.
Publisher: Shining Star Press
Publication Date: May 1989
ISBN-10: 0-9613073-1-5
ISBN-13: 978-0-9613073-1-8
LC number: 89-4229
Size/Binding: 245 pages, 5.5 X 8.5 inches, softcover
Price: $15.95
Contains detailed index and bibliography (over 200 references cited)
Distribution: available from all major wholesalers (except Ingram) or directly from the publisher
Foreign language rights sold: Dutch, French, German, Hebrew, Italian, Marathi, Romanian, Spanish, and Turkish

Helping Young Children Flourish marks a major breakthrough in our understanding of children's emotional needs from two to eight years of age. It provides a complete approach to non-punitive, attachment parenting, continuing the same approach described in the first book of the series, The Aware Baby. Now translated into eight languages, it is being sold around the world.

The seven chapters are packed with information, insights, and solutions to many common problems encountered by parents of young children. There is concrete advice for dealing with tears and tantrums, hitting and biting, sibling rivalry, bedtime and mealtime problems, chores, separation anxiety, and other fears. Important chapters describe the best ways to help children learn, emphasizing the importance of appropriate stimulation as well as plenty of time for free play. The author's approach to discipline is non-authoritarian, using neither punishments nor rewards.

At the core of the author's approach is a recognition of the impact of stress and trauma on children's behavior. Even with the most loving parents children can become stressed, with symptoms that include sleep problems, hyperactivity, violence, and uncooperative behavior. Parents can help children recover emotional balance by allowing them to fully express their grief, fear, disappointment, or anger. Crying and raging are not seen as "misbehavior" but rather as natural tension release mechanisms that help children cope with the inevitable stresses of growing up. Instead of punishing children for their emotional outbursts or trying to distract them, the author recommends responding with compassionate listening.

Helping Young Children Flourish is a well-researched book with over 200 scientific references. Scattered throughout the text are vivid examples from the author's own experiences as a mother, as well as from numerous interviews with other parents. Each chapter concludes with a set of exercises for parents who wish to explore their feelings and take active steps in nurturing themselves.

The author, Dr. Aletha Solter, is a Swiss/American developmental psychologist who studied with Dr. Jean Piaget in Switzerland before earning her Ph.D. in psychology at the University of California. She is the founder and director of The Aware Parenting Institute (, an international organization with certified instructors in many countries. Her other books have also been translated into many languages, and she is recognized internationally as an expert on children's emotional development and non-punitive discipline. She has led workshops in 16 countries and appeared on TV in the U.S., Europe, South Africa, and Asia. The titles of her other books are The Aware Baby, Tears and Tantrums, Raising Drug-Free Kids, and Attachment Play.

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