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January 2, 2019

Comment received at Facebook:

I just heard about you through the Attachment Parenting podcast (Replacing punishment with play), and you blew my mind! I just ordered The Aware Baby.

A mother in the U.S.

January 9, 2019

Comment received at Facebook:

Thanks for your beautiful work! As a mother and a professional I'm inspired by your work. I work with parents and have an online course about setting loving limits, and I would like to share your article on Twenty alternatives to punishment.

A mother in Germany

January 17, 2019

Comment received at Facebook:

Thanks a lot for all your work and all your writings! I take pleasure in reading your books over and over again. For me they are rich, clear, and accessible, and also very pertinent. Thanks for your research and your sharing!

A mother in France

January 30, 2019

Comment received by email:

I have recently purchased an ebook edition of Raising Drug-Free Kids. I would love to also purchase The Aware Baby, Cooperative and Connected, Tears and Tantrums and Attachment Play in an ebook version. Are these books available in an ebook format?

I am very grateful for this enlightening and transformational information. I feel so blessed to have come across this approach early in my parenting journey.

A mother in Australia

Our reply: Thank you for your message and interest in Aware Parenting. Unfortunately, Raising Drug-Free Kids is the only one of Aletha Solter's books that is available in ebook format.

February 1, 2019

Comment received by mail (translated from French):

I had the honor of meeting you at your Paris workshop in 2018. I am a faithful reader of all your books, and I have also given them to young parents that I know. Your books have profoundly influenced my attitude towards my children. You have helped me immensely, and you have given them a beautiful gift.

David Goetghebuer

February 10, 2019

Comment received by email:

Thank you so much for the super helpful workshop yesterday! It felt so good to feel renewed in my confidence and clarity about being with my kids in a way I feel better about already. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I will be keeping my eyes peeled for another opportunity to soak up your wisdom and sweet testimonies. I so loved your stories, and the way you hold children in your heart. Thank you for this beautiful work that you do and share.

Erin Pollaro
Santa Barbara, California

February 19, 2019

Comment received at Facebook (after we announced the new French edition of The Aware Baby):

Thank you so much for all you have written! I discovered your books in a French psychology magazine, and then I bought them to learn more. They helped me a lot to understand why my little baby cried so much. They were a real revelation for me, and what you described gave me more and more courage. He has now been sleeping 12 hours a night since he was five months old. He's calm, curious and smiling. What a pleasure! Thank you again!

A mother in France

April 30, 2019

Comment received by email (translated from French):

Long before having children, I had decided that the use of violence was not an option for raising children. When my daughter was born, I thought that it was absolutely necessary to do something to stop her from crying. I took her on long walks in the woods to calm her down. In spite of my reservations, I ended up buying a pacifier. When she was four-and-a-half months old, our massage therapist lent us your book, The Aware Baby. At first I was shocked by the suggestion to listen to our baby cry (after all other causes such as hunger, discomfort, or illness had been ruled out). My husband was very interested in this suggestion. With his support, we stopped using the pacifier and began listening to her crying (while holding her). She cried a lot, and sometimes I also cried with her. As she grew older, we continued to hold her in our arms when she cried. When she calmed down, she would leave our lap while saying, "It feels good to cry!" This approach has allowed us to accept all of her emotions, including anger. She is now 17 years old, and we have a lovely relationship with her. It's wonderful! I would like to express our deep appreciation for your books!

Maroussia Bader-Weber

May 19, 2019

Comment received at Aletha Solter's YouTube video about the crying-in-arms approach:

Thank you so much for this. I was feeling so frustrated after feeding my 2-year-old for five hours straight at night, and her still wanting milk every two hours. The first night I allowed her to cry, it took her 40 minutes, and I was able to hold her and soothe her through it, and she had the best sleep everÖ By the third night, she really seemed to have the hang of it. She knows that after reading books, itís no more milk. She climbed in my arms and fell asleep within three minutes of me holding her, and I could lay her down in the bed. This has seriously changed our life! I canít thank you enough.

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