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Consultations with Aletha Solter, Ph.D.

Founder and Director of The Aware Parenting Institute

Aletha Solter is a developmental psychologist, parent educator, and world-renowned expert on attachment-style parenting, non-punitive discipline, and both cognitive and emotional development. Her books have been translated into many languages, and she has led workshops in 16 countries. The titles of her books are, The Aware Baby, Cooperative and Connected (a revised edition of Helping Young Children Flourish), Tears and Tantrums, Raising Drug-Free Kids, and Attachment Play.

Dr. Solter offers private consultations (in English or French), for people who have read at least one of her books or attended one of her workshops. (It is necessary for people to understand and agree with the basic Aware Parenting approach.) She teaches parents how to interact with their children in ways that can enhance the children's development, and how to solve typical behavior problems. Her consultations and workshops are purely educational. She does not diagnose children or conduct therapy with either children or adults.

Please note that Dr. Solter does not answer personal questions by e-mail because Aware Parenting does not consist of quick, simplistic answers. Sometimes the key to solving a problem lies in something that parents are not initially aware of. When Dr. Solter talks with parents, she is often able to get at the root of a problem and make helpful suggestions. This is impossible to do by e-mail.


Here is a sample of the many thank you notes and testimonials received by Aletha Solter.

"Thank you for the consultation. I had thought that our baby didn't like to be held, but I cradled him in my arms and looked into his eyes and stroked him and spoke loving words to him, and he took his thumb out of his mouth and cried. They felt like tears of relief to me. Then he smiled at me and fell asleep in my arms. I am relieved, too, to have found a way to support him to express his feelings. He seems happier now. And even more significant is that, after two nights, he has gone from waking five times during the night to just once. We are jumping for joy! Keep up the good work. Thanks again."
- Father of a 4-month-old boy who sucked his thumb and didn't want to be held.
"I have been meaning to write to you for the longest time. I wanted to tell you THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart... I am SO relieved that she is now napping twice a day. The first nap is usually only 30 minutes, but in the afternoon, she sleeps for over an hour. For us, this is a dramatic improvement."
- Mother of an 8-month-old girl who resisted taking naps during the day.
"Thank you for the consultation. It helped tremendously!"
- Mother of a one-year-old girl who woke up 10 to 20 times per night.
"The consultation was very helpful. We have particularly enjoyed your suggestion to playfully pretend to argue over whose turn it is to be with her. She beams when we play this game. She is now requesting it and sets up little scenarios for us to enact."
- Parents of a 4-year-old girl who was showing signs of stress, disconnection, and anger.
"Thank you so much for your time and wisdom. Our situation has already improved."
- Parents of a 6-year-old boy with aggressive behavior (hitting, pinching, kicking, biting).
"Your consultation put the light on a big part of what we were missing with our son. Now we can see how the journey should go. I was wondering how he could do more healing, and it was right under my nose, so to speak, the whole time. It was good to talk to a professional who understands. That was therapy for me."
- Mother of an 8-year-old boy who had been traumatized.
"Thank you so much for your immensely helpful support over these many years! It is so helpful and comforting to know that I have you to call when I need advice!"
- Mother of an 11-year-old, highly sensitive girl.
"Thank you for your support and excellent thinking over the years! You have made a great difference in our understanding of parenting, and therefore, in our lives."
- Mother of an 11-year-old girl who was adopted at birth.
"My session with you was the best eighty dollars I've spent all year! I told my husband everything you said. It was all so reassuring and supportive. I actually feel a shift in my relationship with my son, just knowing that a lot of his behavior is normal."
- Mother of a 12-year-old boy.

Video testimonial about Aware Parenting


Consultations for parents without children present (telephone, Skype, or in person)

Consultations can include any of the following topics concerning children from birth through adolescence. If you wish to discuss more than one child, please schedule a separate consultation for each one. Hourly fee: USD $80 or EUR 80.

orange ball Attachment and bonding
orange ball Crying and tantrums
orange ball Sleep and feeding problems
orange ball Behavior problems
orange ball Sibling rivalry
orange ball Children's fears
orange ball School problems, educational advising
orange ball Information about child development (cognitive or emotional)

Parent/child play sessions (in person only, with a child from one through eight years)

Consultations for parents with children present take the form of facilitating unique forms of parent/child play (Attachment Play), which can help to resolve behavior problems while also enhancing bonding and emotional development. If you wish to bring your child for a parent/child play session, please schedule a preliminary consultation without your child. After that first session, Dr. Solter will design a parent/child play session that best meets the needs of your family. Please allow up to one-and-a-half hours for a play session. The fee for a play session is $130. This fee includes a half-hour follow-up telephone consultation.

Click here for a printable flyer about Dr. Solter's parent/child play sessions.

How to schedule a consultation

If you wish to have a consultation with Dr. Solter, the best way to reach her is by e-mail ( If you are in the U.S. you can also leave a telephone message at 805-968-1868. Please indicate when you can be reached. We do not return telephone calls to foreign countries. When you contact her, please provide the following information:

orange ball Which books by Aletha Solter you have read (or which workshops you have attended)
orange ball Which country or time zone you are in
orange ball What days and times you prefer
orange ball Whether you want a telephone, Skype, or in-person consultation

After receiving this information, Dr. Solter will e-mail you a pre-consultation questionnaire to fill out before your appointment, and she will offer you a few appointment times to choose from. She is usually able to schedule appointments within one to two weeks (unless she is on a workshop tour). If you have not read any of Dr. Solter's books or attended any of her workshops, please read at least one of her books before scheduling a consultation with her.

Summary of Fees

orange ball Consultations by phone, Skype, or in person (without children): $80 per hour (30 minute minimum). Note: Skype sessions are for parents only (no children).
orange ball For Europeans, consultations by phone or Skype: 80 EUROS per hour (30 minute minimum).
orange ball Parent/child attachment play session (in person only): $130 (includes a half-hour follow-up telephone consultation).

Payment is due after your consultation. Please inquire about payment methods. Note: These fees do not include any e-mail follow-up advice.

Pre-consultation questionnaire

The pre-consultation questionnaire requests information about your child, beginning at conception. This information will help Dr. Solter understand your child and your family situation. The questionnaire is free and available upon request (by e-mail) (please specify English or French.) Dr. Solter requests that you fill it out and return it to her by e-mail at least 24 hours before your consultation. Your answers are confidential and will be seen only by her.

Other sources of support

Please visit our Parent Support Page to learn about other sources of support for Aware Parenting.


This page was last updated on October 15, 2018. Copyright © 1996 to 2018 by Aletha Solter. All rights reserved. No part of this web site may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means,electronic or mechanical (including copying to other web sites, and including translations), without written permission from Aletha Solter, with the exception of printing pages for personal use. This copyright applies to all the pages and articles from the Aware Parenting Institute web site and Shining Star Press.