Articles by Aletha Solter, Ph.D.


Aletha Solter, PhD, is a developmental psychologist, international speaker, consultant, and founder of the Aware Parenting Institute. Her books have been translated into many languages, and she is recognized internationally as an expert on attachment, trauma, and non-punitive discipline. In addition to her six books, she has written numerous articles for parents and professionals about various aspects of the Aware Parenting approach.


Published professional articles by Aletha Solter

Hold me! The importance of physical contact with infants. Journal of Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Health, 15(3), 21-43, 2001.

A case study of traumatic stress disorder in a 5-month-old infant following surgery. Infant Mental Health Journal, 28(1), 76-96, 2007.

A 2-year-old child's memory of hospitalization during early infancy. Infant and Child Development, 17, 593-605, 2008.

Click here for a complete list of professional articles by Aletha Solter.


Short summaries of the Aware Parenting approach

The three aspects of Aware Parenting

The ten principles of Aware Parenting

Principles of learning

Frequently asked questions


Articles originally published in Mothering magazine

Crying for comfort: distressed babies need to be held

Family meetings for conflict resolution
Spanish version Las reuniones familiares para la resolución de conflictos

The disadvantages of time-out
Dutch version De nadelen van time-out
French version Les désavantages de la mise à l'écart temporaire (Time-Out)
Romanian version Dezavantajele Time-out-ului
Spanish version Las desvantajas del tiempo fuera
Twenty alternatives to punishment
Dutch version Twintig alternatieven voor straffen
French version Vingt alternatives à la punition
Spanish version Veinte alternativas al castigo


Other articles by Aletha Solter

How children heal from trauma

Tips for parents of young children during the coronavirus pandemic

French version Conseils aux parents de jeunes enfants pendant la pandémie de coronavirus
Spanish version Consejos para padres de niños pequeños durante la pandemia del coronavirus

Coping with teens and screens

Spanish version Cómo lidiar con los adolescentes y las pantallas

Do children really need praise?

Dutch version Hebben kinderen echt nood aan complimenten?

Raising Drug-Free Kids

The crying-in-arms approach for helping babies sleep through the night

Dutch version Laat je baby huilen in je armen, zo help je hem met doorslapen

Why do children 'misbehave'?

Don't spank your children
Dutch version Sla je kinderen niet
French version Ne frappez pas vos enfants: Dix raisons pour eviter la fessée
Spanish version No pegues a tus hijos

What to do when your baby cries
Dutch version Wat te doen als je baby huilt?
French version Que faire quand votre bébé pleure?
German version Was tun, wenn dein Baby weint?
Spanish version ¿Qué hacer cuando un bebé llora?

Understanding tears and tantrums

Dutch version Omgaan met driftbuien

Children and trauma: what to expect and what to do

French version Les enfants et les traumatismes
The drugging of children: a national disgrace


Transcribed Interviews with Aletha Solter

How can we respond to babies' emotions?
French version Comment accompagner les émotions des petits?

Interview with Aletha Solter on crying and high-need infants
Spanish version Entrevista con Aletha Solter sobre el llanto de los bebés


Videos and Podcast Interviews with Aletha Solter

The Aware Parenting YouTube channel (over 20 videos)

TV Interview with Aletha Solter
Interview done in Santa Barbara, California in 2014.

Video interview with Aletha Solter about the basic aspects of Aware Parenting.
Interview done by Rebecca Sheikh in 2020.

Podcast interview with Aletha Solter about her book, Healing Your Traumatized Child
Interview done by Joss Goulden for her Aware Parenting Stories Podcast in 2022.

Podcast interview with Aletha Solter about stages of development
Interview done by Marion Rose and Lael Stone for their Aware Parenting Podcast in 2022.

Video interview with Aletha Solter about helping children cope with stress.
Interview by Aletha's son and daughter-in-law (Nick and Sonja) for their Dyslexia Journey Podcast in 2022.

Video interview with Aletha Solter about taking care of ourselves and dealing with parental guilt.
Interview by Aletha's son and daughter-in-law (Nick and Sonja) for their Dyslexia Journey Podcast in 2023.

Video interview with Aletha Solter about the healing power of children's tears..
Interview by Lithuanian talk show host, Renata Cikanaite in 2023.

Podcast interview with Aletha Solter about Aware Parenting..
Interview by Respectful Parenting in Lithuania (Pagarby Tevyste) in 2023.

Podcast interview with Aletha Solter about parenting children with special needs
Interview by Spirited Hearts: the Podcast with Steph Fleeton in 2023.


Questions and Answers

Aletha Solter answered parents' questions for a few years at the Parenthoodweb site. Below are links to the 27 questions she answered during that period. This is not a personal advice column, and Dr. Solter will not be posting any more answers. If you have a question about your child, check the articles below to see if one of them addresses your concern. If you would like personal advice or support, please contact Dr. Solter to schedule a consultation. She does not answer personal queries by email. See also our Parent Support Page.

Conception to Two Years

How Can I Bond With My Infant Before Birth?
Crying Spells in Six-Week-Old Infant
Frustrations in Four-Month-Old
Four-Month-Old Wakes up Frequently at Night
Eight-Month-Old Is Unable to Entertain Herself
Fussy Ten-Month-Old
Eleven-Month-Old is Aggressive Towards Mother
How to Stop a Toddler From Biting
Toddler Won't Listen

Two to Five Years

Temper Tantrums in Two-Year-Old
How Can I Help My Daughter Remember to Use the Potty?
Separation Anxiety in Three-Year-Old
Bedtime Problems With Three-Year-Old
My Daughter is a Dawdler!
Child Diagnosed with both ADHD and Anxiety Disorder... HELP!
Is Masturbation Inappropriate for Four-Year-Olds?
Single Mother Cannot Control Four-Year-Old Son
Kindergartner Reluctant to Go to School

Five to Nine Years

Five-Year-Old Wants to Sleep with Parents
Child Afraid of Night-Time "Monsters"
My Sweet Baby Has Turned Into a Troubled Five-Year-Old
An Only Child is Aggressive with Other Children at School
Compulsive Behavior in Six-Year-Old
Six-Year-Old is a Terrible Eater
Should I Associate an Allowance with Specific Household Duties?
Making Doctor Visits a Pleasant Experience for Children
How Can I Talk to My Child About Sex?


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