Cooperative and Connected

Helping children flourish without punishments or rewards

by Aletha Solter, Ph.D.

Publication date: February 15, 2018

Stop punishing and start connecting!

Cooperative and Connected is a revolutionary book for parents of children from two to eight. Based on research in the fields of child development and neurophysiology, this approach will show you how to prevent power struggles and create a lifelong, loving connection with your children. You will learn how to help them grow up to be cooperative, compassionate, competent, nonviolent, and drug free. This book will teach you how to:

Cooperative and connected
  • Understand your children's emotions
  • Help your children conquer fears
  • Provide a stimulating learning environment
  • Connect with your children through play
  • Set limits without punishments or rewards
  • Deal creatively with sibling rivalry
  • Avoid conflicts over food

Developmental psychologist and parent educator Aletha Solter is the founder of the Aware Parenting Institute. She is recognized internationally as an expert on attachment, trauma, and non-punitive discipline. Her five parenting books have been translated into many languages.

Interview with Aletha Solter about her book, Cooperative and Connected


Please click on the following links for more information:

Full news release and author bio
Full cover image (front and back cover)
Look inside the book (front matter, table of contents, and introduction)
Aware Parenting Institute home page

Reviews and endorsements:

"Cooperative and Connected is a treasure. Anyone who lives or works with children must read it!"
—Violet Oaklander, Ph.D., Gestalt therapist and author of Windows to Our Children

"In her book, Cooperative and Connected, Dr. Solter integrates a really nuts-and-bolts guide to practical parenting questions with vignettes that perfectly illustrate her points. And overarching all of this is her compassionate, kind, nurturing approach to parenting. I will definitely recommend it to parents."
—Thomas Armstrong, Ph.D., author of The Myth of the ADHD Child

"In her book, Cooperative and Connected, Aletha Solter has given parents a magnificent guide to help develop a truly cooperative relationship with their children. Her approach avoids the conflicts that result in the oppositional behaviors of the 'terrible twos' and fosters self-assured, compassionate children. With all the theories and rules about child development, her book stands out, providing a deceptively simple set of principles that will ensure the greatest gift you can give to your kids, and even to our future society."
—Peter A. Levine, Ph.D., author of Trauma-Proofing Your Kids

"I read Cooperative and Connected with fascination because of the gentleness of Dr. Solter's approach and her creative suggestions for how to stay gentle and feel competent, even when a child is screaming or refusing to obey. This seems like a revolutionary book, a MUST read for all parents, but especially for parents of highly sensitive children."
—Elaine Aron, Ph.D., author of The Highly Sensitive Child


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